Saturday, July 25, 2020
100 Days with No Goals
100 Days with No Goals Iâve lived the last 100 days with no goals, and Iâve never felt happier or more alive. When I met my friend Leo Babautaâ"two-thousand miles from my home in Dayton, Ohioâ"he said there were three things that significantly changed his life: establishing habits he enjoyed, simplifying his life, and living with no goals. I was already living the first two: I had established my pleasurable habits, and I had simplified my life. But it was difficult for me to grasp the whole âno goalsâ thing. The thought of living a life with no goals sounded insane to me: it was counterintuitive, it was scary, and it went against nearly everything I had learned about productivity. In my corporate life of yesteryear, I managed hundreds of people for a large corporationâ"an organization in which I was often considered the productivity guy, the goal guy: I met deadlines, overproduced, exceeded expectations, got results. Thatâs why they paid me the big bucks. I regularly had umpteen goals in various stages of completion: short-term goals, long-term goals, personal goals, business goals, health goals, financial goals, vacation goals, consumer-purchasing goals, you name it. I thought if I crossed enough goals off my to-do list, Iâd eventually be content. So I worked harder and harder, focusing on every new goal with lapidary precision. But I was stressed out of my mind with all those goals. My hauntingly perpetual to-do list was just thatâ"perpetual, never-ending. And it was ever-growing. Plus, I was continuously disappointed when I didnât achieve a goal, or when I missed a deadline. I was even disappointed when I attained a goal, but didnât overachieve. It was a self- consuming high: it was never enough. I needed a way to quit my goals cold turkey, so I did two things after speaking with Leo First, I asked myself, âWhy do I have these goals?â I had goals so I could tell if I was âaccomplishingâ what I was âsupposedâ to accomplish. If I met a goal, I was allowed to be happyâ"right? Then I thought: Wait a minuteâ"why must I achieve a specific result towards an arbitrary goal to be happy? Why donât I just allow myself to be happy now? Second, I decided to live with no goals for a while. I didnât know how long, because I didnât make it a goal. I figured Iâd give it a shot for a month or so, maybe longer, to see what happened. If it affected me negatively, I could return to my rigid life of âachievingâ and âproducing resultsâ with my color-coded spreadsheets containing scads of goals. What happened? Breaking free from goals changed my entire outlook on life. Three Ways Living with No Goals Changed My Life 1. I am less stressed. I have virtually no stress now. Sure, there are brief moments in which I feel vexed or bothered, but I feel so much less stress these days. People Iâve known for years comment on how calm I am. With no goals, they say Iâm a different personâ"a better person. 2. I am more productive. I didnât anticipate this one. I thought getting rid of goals meant I was going to sacrifice results and productivity, but the opposite has been true. I tossed productivity and became more productive. Iâve written the best literary fiction of my life, Iâve watched our websiteâs readership increase significantly, Iâve met remarkable new people, and Iâve been able to contribute to other people like never before. The last 100 days have been the most productive days of my life. 3. I am happier and more content. During my 30 years on this earth, Iâve never been this consistently happy or content. It is an incredible feelingâ"even surreal at times. With the decreased stress and increased productivity resulting from no goals, I am able to enjoy my lifeâ"I am able to live in the moment. And thus I am appreciably happier and more content. Three Misconceptions About No Goals Three arguments against the no-goal lifestyle presented themselves to me in the last 100 days, all three of which Iâd like to address. 1. Complacency: Doesnât a life with no goals make you complacent? Well, if by âcomplacentâ you mean âcontentââ"then yes. Otherwiseâ"no, it didnât make me complacent. In fact, the opposite was true: after removing the stress from my life, I engaged in new, exciting endeavors while living a passionate, meaningful life. 2. Growth: Doesnât a life with no goals prevent you from growing? Noâ"Iâve grown considerably in the last 100 days. Iâve gotten into the best shape of my life, strengthened my personal relationships, established new relationships, and written more than ever before. Iâve grown more in the last 100 days than any other 100-day period in my life. 3. You still have goals: You say you have no goals, but donât you still have some goals, like finishing your new novel or âbeing happyâ or âliving in the momentâ? Itâs important to make a distinction here: yes, I want to âbe happyâ and âlive in the momentâ and âlive a healthy life,â but these are choices, not goals. I choose to be happy. I choose to live in the moment. I choose to live a healthy life. I donât need to measure these events, I simply live this way. As for my new novel, I intend to finish writing itâ"Iâve never worked harder on anything in my lifeâ"but Iâm enjoying the process of writing it, and if I never finish, thatâs okay, too. Iâm not stressed about it anymore. Living with no goals has changed me for the better: It has added layers of happiness and contentment I didnât realize were possible. It has allowed me to contribute to other people in meaningful ways. Iâm not going back to a goal-oriented life. No goals. None at all. Life is outstanding without them. This essay was originally published at Zen Habits.
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